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  1. oh this was so well written, thank you. I am raising boys here in Hawaii in the competitive surf community, and i am blown away by all they go through (and they are homeschooled! :)) It is hard to watch kids grow up and know that they are struggling to fit in, comparing themselves, and so on…Trying to give wise counsel, and keep speaking the truth, but this is a huge area. Thank you!! aloha

  2. Valerie (#40) says:

    My heart does have a yearning to belong and the comparison can be saddening. But, that is why I have to remember that I am fearfully and wonderfully made, and individual that need the love of Christ every moment of every day and relying on God to met that need is a very courageous thing to do!! Good share.

  3. Thank you, Cheri, for your understanding and guidance. “What I’m learning about myself is that when I see my envy as a little girl full of longing, I now know what to do and what not to do.” I need to do that more often. Since I was a little girl, that “not good enough” plagues me. So often I compare, even as I read blog posts. It’s like my default mode – always beating myself up. I want to take that little girl by the hand and bring her to Jesus, but so easily I forget.

  4. Cheri….LOVE this. Thank you for your encouragement today. Your words truly (TRULY) spoke to my heart. I’m breathing in God’s grace here and grabbing onto the truth that because He is enough, I am, too.

  5. Touched a wound in my life. Growing up hearing, “Why can’t you be this..or this..you’re such a smart girl..”. Then I became a stay-at-home mom limited by depression as to how much I could handle. And I hear “You are wasting your God-given brains…get a job like your friends who are doctors and lawyers and important people..” The funny thing is these people do love me and hate to see me suffering in need. And so I look at other women who have limitations too but who are prospering and I find myself clothed in shame. And yes, envy. Which finds no room for God to say , Come, let me delight in you. I need to know His delight as I am. Thank you for sharing.

  6. Oh Cheri, those toe-stompers surely do hurt! But, I think you point out a valuable lesson to be learned – there is need for greater reliance on the One who makes our “too much” and “not enough” just right. When He showers us with His grace, it’s so much easier to take her hand and lead her back to The One. The only One who can show us who we really are. Loved this friend!

  7. Sometimes as parents we don’t even know we are setting our children up. I told my daughter, who has been responding with major attitude lately, “Why don’t you just talk to me like a normal person?” She responded, “What if I’m not normal?” I was taken aback. I told her “I didn’t mean that, I meant like I am a ‘normal’ person that you would speak nicely to, not some stranger.” We definitely need to watch our words and examples and “Therefore encourage one another and build each other up…” 1 Thessalonians 5:11